Based in Frome, somerset, #fitMess is a blog by Joanna Beale. Her posts draw on her work as a personal trainer, as well as her own personal past experience of significant obesity.  Her general focus is overall wellness and body positivity.

Why you need to...

You're trying to stay on track, you're doing so well. And then DISASTER strikes. Or does it?  Whatever your mission, you might be part of the problem.

Maybe you need to...


Half of the things you are telling yourself aren't true. I'm not just referring to negative self talk.   Obviously that shit needs to stop, and we'll talk about that again. This time, I mean the excuses. All of those excuses; the deep, ingrained beliefs that we hold without even realising. I'm going to run you through a few of mine and you can see if any bells ring for you.  

1. 'I deserve it' ; see also 'I've earned it', 'I had a bad day' and 'my job/ life/ relationship is stressful': I first realised that this was a bunch of crap when I acknowledged that I'd started 'rewarding' myself for every day that I simply made it home alive, or commiserating on a tough day fought on the front line of modern life. Weapon of choice? Wine, chocolate etc. Well done me for making it through the day, right? WROOOOOONG... if you're in a reward cycle for simply existing, you're making excuses. You are enabling yourself to continue with your less than nutritious behaviour. You are lying to yourself. 

2. The Blame Game; see also 'my husband made me do it', 'They had cake at work', 'it's my second cousin's wedding': what I'm doing here is making it someone else's fault for my own deviation from my chosen path. I've chosen someone else or a situation as the enabler for my behaviour and I'm blaming them for my own lack of focus. Why? Because I don't want to admit to myself that it is me who lacks commitment. Again, this is just excuses. Lies we tell ourselves so that we are able to get away with more. 

3. 'I was too busy/tired': No. I was underprepared for one of two reasons - either I had failed to anticipate a situation OR I had engaged in more enabling behaviour. By being underprepared, we can give ourselves leeway to veer off-plan or to indulge in something we might otherwise deny ourselves. This is a lie we tell so that we don't feel bad for deviating. Be honest with yourself. You are in the driving seat. Forgot your trainers? Didn't make lunch? I smell bullshit. Get yourself a diary.



Let go of all the reasons you can't, all of the doubts, and all of your baggage. We cling to what we know even when it's not the wisest choice; even when it's not healthy for us to do so. 

Let go of the guilt.  You are good enough and you are worth trying for. Let go of the blame. You can't do this for, or be prevented from trying by, anyone else. Let go of your past and the potential futures. You only have now. You can only make a difference today. If your diet starts tomorrow, the chances are it will ALWAYS start tomorrow. If you exist in maybes, you will never reach an outcome. Let go of the maybes, let go of the doubt. Allow yourself to believe that today will be a good day. Work on tomorrow when it comes.

Just let it go. Stop clinging, stop wallowing. You will never like who you are if you keep hating everything that brought you to this moment.  



Not everything works for everyone. Give it a month of concerted effort. If you haven't tried something, you don't know if it will work. If you keep doing the same things without success, you already know they won't work. Which strategy is the wisest? No brainer. 

The biggest risk I ever took: my own business. I realise now it was the beginning of living my dream. Couldn't be happier with that decision 3 years ago.

The biggest risk I ever took: my own business. I realise now it was the beginning of living my dream. Couldn't be happier with that decision 3 years ago.


Seizing Your Moment(s)