Resolutions and realities
I've lost a bit of weight and I am being asked about it A LOT. The majority of people have asked me if I'd be willing to disclose my secret. The short answer is that there really isn't one, but if I was to sum it up in a couple of words, it would be this: hard fucking work. By that, I don't mean I've been killing myself at the gym. Yes, I've been working out more - but that's just one necessary part of a huge process. When I say working hard, I mean I've been focused on every single one of my daily actions and how they will impact my future goals. And that's been every fucking day, not just when I feel like it. I've been accountable for all the food I've been eating, and not kidding myself or having treats and rewards for simply getting through the day. I've been full-on in my sobriety, acknowledging that alcohol isn't for me and doing everything I can in order to remain strong in my resolve. I've been training when my body is up to it, not when my mind decides it can or can't be arsed; knowing that sometimes I need a team of trainers helping motivate me, too. I've been trying new things. I've been learning to relax. I've been working on every area of my life that's prone to self-sabotage and I've been honest with myself about where I need to progress physically, intellectually, from a health perspective, and generally, as a human being. And all of that, involves actual action. That said, doing all this work makes every aspect of my life so much easier. So when I say it's been hard work, what I really mean is, it's been the RIGHT work, for me. Everything I do, every day, I do in order to make the next decision easier, and to make myself proud at the end of today. Tomorrow I'll try again.
The only secret is, you have to do the right work for you. Stop fighting yourself, stop feeling conflicted all the time. Work towards walking and talking the same words and actions. Plan. Separate your outcomes from your actions. Focus only on today. Listen to advice. Talk to experts. Be aware of your obstacles, that's the way they'll be overcome. Get the fuck out of your denial loops.
Planning, preparation, and consistent awareness of your behaviour: that's how you'll modify habits and get into sustainable ways of living for your goals. I'm not talking about total devout misery to the cause! I'm talking about implementing management strategies for keeping to a behavioural framework that will serve you better in life. Helping yourself to help yourself.
Work hard in order to make the work easy. Every day. Not just weekdays. Not just term time. Temporary measures and part time effort will get you temporary, part-time results. Fuck that. Go all in! Or, keep doing all the same things, and keep getting all the same results.
And your final thought: if you wouldn't put a dirty bandage on a wound, why would you keep applying the same type of unhelpful strategies to your problems?